No More Regrets

Have YOU ever heard the quote?

“If you worry about things you can’t change… you’re crazy, and if you worry about things you can change… you’re lazy!”-Unknown

That quote all by itself should write this entire post…or be the entire post…hmm

...But we all know that’s not gonna happen & plus it would defeat the whole purpose of you stopping by GYC-GirlYOUCrazy.com        

                                            …and I thank you!

Now back to “crazy,” “lazy,” and/or both!

When you think about it, this quote has 2 parts…the past (crazy) and the present (lazy)…. How many times have we rehearsed/rewound, how we could have done something different… over, over and over again?

Sometimes we’ll say:

+I’m only thinking about it now… because if it happens again… then I’ll be prepared…

+Man, I wish I said _________ instead of _________ because now _______ …but if it happens again…

+The next time that happens…I’m going to do this, and say that…yep, that’s what I going to do.

+I should have trusted my gut/inner voice/conscience…

+I don’t regret it…I just could’ve done things differently.---By the way…what does that mean???

Any of these sound familiar??? If not, feel free to add your own!

We’ll play out this whole scenario of “shoulda, coulda, woulda” that has this undertone of REGRET… of stuff/things that we don’t have the opportunity to change, and stuff/things that we do have the opportunity to change, right now!

Whether you call “it” regret or something else…”it” is an area that needs some calling out mixed with some action of Letting GO and/or Moving FORWARD!

So what is the point of this post???

Make a list that you will never read? No.

---Never act on? No.

Call Out Regrets that you can’t and can change? YES!

Distinguish the difference of can and can’t, call it out…THEN LIVE IT!? YES!

So here it is, The list of “No More Regrets”…

                                                      I’m making mine, print this out and make yours!

GYC Girl YOU Crazy Official Commentary:

NO MORE REGRETS, WE CHANGE WHAT WE CAN AND WE LEARN & LET GO OF WHAT WE CAN’T!

Here comes Old Slew Foot

When negativity knocks…tell it to SHUT UP and Go away! Or close the blinds and lock the door! Your choice but I would probably do both and laugh in between…

So old “slew foot” comes to the door…

Wait…let me tell you how I use the term “slew foot”, since I know we all have a definition of what “slew foot” means and sometimes we add our own spin, in our own words…especially since this word is a hockey term, I believe, I’m sure you will correct me if I’m wrong or will you?

Definition of Slew Foot

I’ve heard “slew foot” used by people who do not play hockey, so my definition is as follows:

            Unwanted/negative actions or words placed in your thoughts or done by people, which are meant to knock you down and keep you from your goal when you are confident and in pursuit…

Description of “slew foot”:

-Envious

-Jealous

-Distraction

-Hater

-Negative

-Busted and disgusted….

            Shall I go on???...No? Okay, you get the picture!

And we’re back…

 So old “slew foot” comes to the door…whether you open it or not…

“Negativity comes when it’s unwanted...which is always.”

GYC Commentary and Story

When it looks like everything is going good/great/fantastic/all of that, and something not so great happens… You think, “It was too good to be true,” “I knew it couldn’t last for long,” “I was too excited, too fast” and/or all of “slew foot’s” relatives and descriptions…

I remember being in a moment like that when I was younger but now it’s easier to fight off because I know the truth… but in that moment, there was a serious feeling of weakness, defeat, embarrassment, all of these emotions that scream “Fail! Failing! Failed!”

Slew Foot came when I knew exactly what I wanted to be when I grow up (that’s just like old slew). It showed up in older/grown people, some successful, some not so successful and none were not doing what I wanted to be, nor did they know much about my desired industry…but that didn’t stop them!

It was in those moments of second, third, fourth guessing and discouragement that I remembered the encouragement from people that I actually respect and love. From then on…I choose to remember encouragement from those who owed me nothing whenever “slew foot’s” cousin discouragement came a knocking...and I put a smile back on my face!

Old Slew Foot will always try to come back in different shapes and forms, people and things…it tries to visit me often but I call it by name and stop it dead in its tracks…

We’re destined for greatness… so we don’t have time for that!

For every comment that tries to push you backward, have a comment/phrase/thought ready to push you forward, whether you say it out loud or in your head…be ready!

Thank those who encourage you, use that encouragement to push back on discouragement and knock “slew foot” on the ground & under your feet, where it belongs!

-GYC Girl YOU Crazy HAS Spoken!

The Art of Not Giving Up

Why did you start? (Repeat) Why did you start? Are you going to finish? How will you finish? Why should you finish?

The Art of Not Giving Up is not a new topic yet it remains relevant and important to finishing, completing that “thing” you started.

I think about the several TV shows & movies both old and new with child characters starting something one day, forgetting it the next day and asking to start something new… today.

Now in these situations, the parents either roll their eyes and ask about the other things he/she started, tell them to finish that “thing” first…then we’ll think about this new “thing” or the parent will say “how much does it cost and what do I have to do… for you to do it?”

           

Raise your hand if you can relate… whether you have to think about it a long time or it was yesterday and/or you or your kid!

As a kid and as a new adult (you have your definition of adult, I have mine…), it’s funny how my thinking in this department has only slightly changed.

The kid me:

+Started “something” and finished because I had to…

+Started “something” and finished because I wanted to…

+Started “something” because the end result was a trip to Disney World…then quit when I realized the trip was way (wayyyyyy) down the line, and I would have to keep doing this “thing” till I was in my junior year of high school…

+Started “something” that I

--Love

--Have passion for

---Will keep doing until I see the end result…

-----But I hope I never see the end because I love it so much…the process of completing it feels like finishing everyday (if that makes sense…).-----

The (new) adult me:

+Feels the same way about the last “+” because it’s still present in my life…

+Finds it easier, not easy for me to Start “something” and commit to finishing because I can visualize the end; my own definition of end, which is “did I get/receive what I came for? If not, I’m not done.”

But what is The Art of Not Giving Up????????

The Art of Not Giving Up is pursuing:

+What you need

+What you love

+What you’re passionate about

+What you are willing to defend

++You know why you’re doing/attempting “it”

++You are excited about what will come from “it”

And when you started, you didn’t start with wanting to give up…so, why would you give up now?

GYC Commentary (last notes…if you didn’t read anything else…):

In college, I was taught business through the eyes of design, design is a never-ending process, even when you think you’re done the end result could evolve to something better.

When pursuing The Art of Not Giving Up, as in something you should be pursuing…you do NOT give up because you know/trust that the best is yet to come!

When you have good reasons not to give up…YOU CAN and WILL Speak boldly

“I am successful.” No matter what it looks like, “I am successful.” If no one else believes it, I DO, and if I don’t believe it, why should anyone else?

YOU ARE A FIGHTER…SO KEEP FIGHTING!

THE ART OF NOT GIVING UP

I may not know where you're going... (SheNOWChat Wrap-up)

 

“I may not know where you're going...but I know it’s worth the fight!”

Last Monday's #SheNOWChat was all about encouraging & inspiring the younger female generation: daughter, niece, sister, friend, neighbor...never met her, all of the above!

I had questions and inspirational women had answers…Advice Needed? YES.

“The process of success is meant to strengthen us, and be re-told to encourage those after us.” –The Truth about the Process

#AdviceNeeded- GYC Girl YOU Crazy #SheNOWChat Questions

Q1: What do you wish you knew before starting College/secondary School and/or your 1st job?
Q2: What did you think you lacked in achieving your dream/goal but realized you had all along?
Q3: What do you know for sure about the path you took, to be where you are today (goal-setting)?
Q4: If someone attached a quote to your name…what would you want it to be?
Q5: What advice would you give a young woman who is feeling pressure to take a different path than the one she wants to follow?
Q6: Besides writing them down, what advice do you have about turning ideas into reality?
Q7: When looking back, what phrases/quotes guided you through pressuring moments?

Sitting at my computer, tweeting the questions, and trying my best to interact with the answers (which goes sooooo fast if I might add)… I was in awe… because the very thing that we wanted, we got it!

+ Real Answers

+The truth about the process of this precious thing we call life and its success & experience (I hate the word failure, so I call it experience, fyi)

+Advice that we can live out and not think “well that is just for them or there’s no way I can do that…”

+And the past told as lessons learned with hope for the future & a lot of “SPUNK” to live out!

In developing GYC Girl YOU Crazy, I realized there is one thing about inspiring a dream and living out what you aspire to be… that it doesn’t matter what

 -Race

-Nationality

-Rich

-Poor

-1 parent

-2 parents

-Whatever (etc.)

When it comes to achieving the dreams birthed from our imagination (where we visualized we could do ________(insert your dream here) in the 1st place)…not those dreams given to us by default because of our last name or the neighborhood we came from…We all need a listening ear of support & a real but gentle word of advice from true experience. After all, haven’t we all heard "Girl YOU Crazy" in some manner or another!

Don’t dismiss someone’s dream because you think she is privileged and doesn’t need your help. The young girl you see everyday could be dreaming of her purpose this very moment but thinking that she’s not qualified to achieve it for whatever reason! You would be surprised to know how many 9+ year olds (that’s right 9) know what they want to be and no one to listen or say go for it!

As we get older & life happens, we can forget… then want to do this thing, that thing and nothing but I'll say from experience/memory that the dreams I still pursue today, I met in elementary… my teacher encouraged my pre-mature dreams w/ a mature response of belief in my dreams.

If there is one thing that I noticed from the chat...is that there are MANY, MANY, MANY women who may not know where you are going but they know where you are and that even now (at whatever age) it’s still worth the fight!

So put your boxing gloves on (or whatever fighting gear you can relate to) and “Tell the naysayers and the Negative Ninnies to go fly a kite!”- Vanessa @GirlfriendGroup

Whether you simply watched the chat…answered the questions or did a little of both…I know we were all recharged in some way. “Take Action. Don’t just think and plan and think and plan.”-@Kalinder

Thank you all for joining the #SheNOWChat (SheNOW.org) with me…I truly appreciate the support, and there is more to come from GYC Girl YOU Crazy…where Crazy is Defeated with Courage (that’s right, defeated)!

When given the chance to give someone/anyone’s dream hope…take it, listen & encourage it!

Check out SheNOW's wrap-up!

Questions from Monday's #SheNOWChat

In case you missed Monday's #SheNOWChat- TwitterChat...here are the questions! Feel free to add your answers and I might mention them in Monday's Post!

Q1: What do you wish you knew before starting College/secondary School and/or your 1st job?

Q2: What did you think you lacked in achieving your dream/goal but realized you had all along?

Q3: What do you know for sure about the path you took, to be where

you are today (goal-setting)?

Q4: If someone attached a quote to your name…what would you want it to be?

Q5: What advice would you give a young woman who is feeling pressure to take a different path than the one she wants to follow?

Q6: Besides writing them down, what advice do you have about turning ideas into reality?

Q7: When looking back, what phrases/quotes guided you through pressuring moments?

 

 

 

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