“To know how
amazing YOU are, should be common knowledge without the confirmation from
another.”-Daily
GYC Note-To-Self
“When I accept
the friendship of self… then, do I begin to understand what it means to be a
friend to someone else.”-Being a Friend
101…(Coming This
Fall…not really but that would be quite the book to read by Lauren Alicia)
“I Befriended
ME…so, my identity isn’t lost in another but found in the development and
understanding of self.”-The purpose of me without
sidebar commentary; YOU, Me, We Speaking Truthfully
Dear
Me,
When
you are naming off the names of your best friends…don’t forget me!
Side Note: You are designed to do great things so… DO THEM!!!
Before we get into it…
Let me say
this…
“When a Stranger Lingers…”
GYC Series is about friendship and the relationships we allow or tolerate even
after we have grown/moved forward/matured/stopped being funky…all of that!!!
If you
missed any of the previous series posts…please scroll to the top for the links…I can wait!!!
…
And
back to it…
Well,
in thinking on this and opening myself up to learn,
I found at one point…a need to
hold on to certain people because of memories.
Quick Rant Style Explanation
BUT what is important to note is…
It wasn’t
that the good memories didn’t outweigh the bad…but what I was holding on
to now was something that no
longer existed…
And needed to be released because my
developing identity (and understanding of self) no longer agreed with some of the “who’s” surrounding me.
Now
let’s back up a little bit…YES…we’re going on a lil’ GYC journey!
Befriending me
allowed me to accept peace and joy in simply being me with or
without others around.
The
moments of holding on to people because of memories became a weight that
clouded me from seeing hope and present possibilities of being able to create
memories without the people that were no longer good for me.
I had to realize that I wasn’t being a friend
to myself, not playing on my own team if I may… by allowing the people I chose
to call friend to maintain their position because of memories that substance no
longer existed.
I needed to relate to today's memories, not from when I last talked to you a year+ ago!!
Befriending
yourself allows YOU, ME, WE to have standards… a prerequisite before
discussing the requirements.
I think we learn to let go
of a lot more when we realize we are worth more…
Befriending
myself permitted me to push pass appearances…
Think
about it,
Even
as kids…our friendships had some sort of substance no matter how complicated or
simple we made it sound to our parents. It may have looked like we were BFFs with everyone but if we explained
each of the friendships…every person told
a little bit about WHO we are and what we enjoy, TODAY.
GYC Personal Reflection…although
this whole post probably seems like that…
I’ve
learned through observation that I am a better friend when I am a friend to
myself, and I can receive the criticism
of others as suggestions for improving myself...versus things I need to do to be a “better
person.”
Yep, pay
attention to the difference!
When we treat ourselves like
a friend…
+++We
look out for ourselves like we would for another person
GYC Explanation:
Sometimes
it takes another set of eyes to tell you about you because we may be blind to
the real situation that is in front of us. Although, I value the friend that
loves me enough to do that…befriending myself daily opens my eyes to
see/evaluate what is and isn’t for me…and that friend can be someone to
agree/confirm/recognize the same thing...versus appearing to bring new
information to me...
Making me
defensive, and all “Girl YOU Crazy!!!”
+++We understand the purpose of the presence...of other people…is not to bash us but to support
us
GYC Explanation: Sometimes we experience something
bad over and over again…and begin to view/see/perceive what we lived as the
norm. Whether we are in a room full of people or by ourselves…we should always be one
of our biggest supporters and cheerleaders. Give what you would want for
yourself, to someone else…but the question is… What do you want for you?
The friendships that I value today are with
people I enjoy encouraging, watching them succeed from level to level, and/or
encouraging greatness out of me.
Take a moment
to think on what your friendship to Self
looks like, and how it is reflected in the people you choose and chose to be around.
Quick GYC Commentary
A quote that is being used
so much but its use is so necessary
is… “We accept the love we think we deserve” from The Perks of Being a
Wallflower. It helps to explain… certain friendships we maintain/allow…and
it all points back to how do YOU view
YOU through understanding of your own self-worth?
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Befriend
yourself daily. Know, and walk in your worth.
GYC Interview with Self because we can’t be a friend to ourselves if we are not honest with
ourselves (some questions to ponder for
your thoughts only)
+ Would you
defend you even in the middle of your own mistakes?
This is not a question of defending the
mistake but of defending who you are, which is human and giving yourself
another chance because you realize/recognize/acknowledge you always have HOPE.
+ Would YOU
befriend YOU?
Because I randomly think about questions I
will ask people when I’m in the position to hire, this question came to mind…”Would
you hire you?” So, in thinking about befriending yourself for your
own sanity...are you a friend that you would want for yourself… I definitely
have moments when I need…and I do apologize to people I consider(ed) friend
because I wasn’t a friend in certain situations. This truth forever remains
“Treat people the way you want to be treated”…but first know how you want/need
to be treated.
+ What will
YOU tolerate in our friendship and what is NOT acceptable?
+ What is YOUR
definition of friend and how close do YOU match it?
What we define and acknowledge is how we perceive
what is before us…what have YOU left undefined?
Last Thoughts…GYC Rant Style
Befriending yourself is a lesson that WE
constantly learn and check to make sure is present in our reality. When you
befriend you, we become less tolerant of those that just want to be
tolerated for the sake of calling you friend instead of being a friend, we open ourselves up to know
ourselves more…and to not just have random standards with no meaning but meaning
with expectations (‘take it or leave it’ attitude) because we know and walk in
our worth. Befriending ourselves isn’t new and it surely isn’t old…if you want to live Bold, Confident &
Strong through Your Purpose…it’s
going to take “Me being a friend to Me” DAILY, getting the agenda, deciding to
live it, and actually receiving what belongs to me because I know what is for
me…and I refuse to be blocked from it holding on to friendships (or anything else unnecessary or distracting) that no longer
have substance like I don’t have real standards!
Time up for that, we are amazing and designed to do great things…that’s
common knowledge!!!
Value your
company even if you are in a room by yourself.
I befriended Me...
Defeating
Crazy with Courageous,
Lauren Alicia
(I think I might add this as a signature for now on?!?!?)
P.S. This post has a few unfinished thoughts for our own thoughts. Remember, 'I do things a lil' differently!'
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Join
me, right here…NEXT WEEK for the Conclusion of “When a Stranger Lingers…”---A
short but necessary series!!!
