“When we
grow…we need to know, WHO didn’t grow with us. Then distinguish if they are the
one’s farting on our forward motion vibe.”-GYCGirl…Keeping the TRUTH
Simple
“Attitudes are
contagious and sometimes place you in bad associations…when the people you
choose to hang with…do the things you no longer do.”-Someone in Recovery of an
Attitude Change!
You know that moment in your life when a profound movie/TV
quote comes on…and you are in TOTAL agreement…
Like the script was meant to talk
YOU specifically about that issue???
I know I am not by myself…
Well, my quote is…
“I didn’t change; I grew-up.”
(I do not know the
originator of this quote but I did Google it…and Drake was Not the 1st so…if
you know…please enlighten me…thank you!)
Take a moment…
Think on it…whether you had to say it to someone or maybe
he/she said it to YOU…
No judgment…WE
are all growing here!!!
But,
It seems like every time we
enter a new season (in life…not weather…well maybe…), some people around us become
dead weight
that we
need to remove so we can move…forward,
and meet the amazing people meant for our right
now season:
+People that will help us
grow and not find joy in keeping us stuck with them.
+People that understand and Respect that our old ways and
habits…are OVER, and if they help keep/maintain/give us a reality check…how
much greater of a friend YOU, Me, WE can be for them.
It’s like our
senses changed…
What once smelled delightful or was enjoyable is now
funky and messes up the vibe of whatever good we are trying to pursue…
Our
new tolerance begins to be open to attract what pleases/embraces/encourages our
new mindset…and we realize “Funky guest
make your whole house funky” and at some point we MUST HAVE been the funky
guest too…messing up the vibe and/or holding people back!!
When we grow, at some point
we have to let go to keep growing.
---I think this lesson we have to
live and cannot only be told.---
Because if we can be honest…and GYC usually is…HELLO!!!
There is
always someone there when you grow up whether past or new that presents the setback
of stepping back…and it’s our responsibility
to locate, recognize and decide to keep moving forward with or without them.
My own found truth/Quick
Rant (let my grammar do what it wants…)…before I tell a GYC Personal Story…
I later realized that the people I let go of for a season or
possibly for good kept me in habits that pushed me nowhere but around…and
wondering are they really my friend???...Because in that transitioning state I
began to question…Am I funky or is it my guest because I think I’m growing up
and moving forward but every time I get around so-and-so or hickamado (if you have grandparents
from the south…ask them!)…I can’t tell the difference between who I am
and who I was!!!
When we change
for the better on the inside…it should be reflected in our outer actions.
It’s up to us
to provide the possible choices of how people decide to perceive us through our
decisions of what we keep around us. At some point, when our character
changes…so shall our guests.
GYC Personal Story
I want to give a GYC Personal Story…but I have SO MANY
examples of this…and I’m sure YOU do too…but I’ll keep it light and people from
wondering if I’m talking about them…for the most part…
“I speak of the past so you may know submitting to
the process allows you to be built to last.”-Me
So…
I think I’ll tell 2 possibly
quick stories…and see where we land!
Let’s start in the 2nd or maybe it was the 1st grade (whatevs),
There was this girl
that I considered my best friend…who happened to be picking on/possibly
bullying another girl from my neighborhood of which my then best friend is not
from…but from what I do recall…they were going back and forth at each other.
HOWEVER, by the end
of these events, the next day I walked home taking my usual route…and I was aggressively greeted by the brother
and sister of the girl my then best friend had exchanged words with…
That’s right, I was pushed up against a fence and questioned
about the words/actions that took place and did not involve me at all…I WAS ALMOST JUMPED for association in
the 2nd grade! Until I threw that then best friend all the way under the bus!!!
Please excuse me but I have never been one to play those games…I need my life (undamaged)!
If you don’t
get down with what is going down…you need to find some new friends to be
around.
Long story short…I did my
best to stop recruiting or accepting friends that could potentially get me
beat-up for their actions…until this one instance…I won’t discuss it, it was
just crazy that as I mature, I keep having to learn this lesson with new people…
But anyway… I will tell of the story behind the
title before I close!!!
So, I had a roommate (in college)…I won’t say which year but
she often had guests over that were interesting in different sorts…and some of
the guests…I did reject their sleepover requests…
But one in particular (oh yes!)…I’m pretty sure was a
stranger (although she attempted other strangers in our dorm room)…this one was
female and friendly plus our other roommate was there as well (for extra eyes
on our things)… and made us not so alarmed by her presence as with the strange
men.
However, let’s get
specific…
Homegirl
needed deodorant on a serious level…the funk filled our room (which
was not small) with her funk for several hours even after she left!!!!
The other roommate and I cried laughing after the 2 of them
left…because of how long and how much Febreeze we needed to change the
situation…
Therefore,
Funky guests make your whole house funky,
as do funky attitudes.
Let me say
this…and I’m done…yep GYC Rant Style
When
we grow-up, mature, think a lil’ more about our actions and consequences…we
have no choice but to start giving time to the things that will grow us in our
new thinking…aka…stop hanging around funky people if you ain’t funky no more!!!
Also…funky is not just bad attitude…I’m including people with small thinking…if
your thinking has become bigger and you finally have realized the endless
possibilities of your abilities…STOP discussing this with people who have yet
to realize their own…just inform them that they have a truth bigger than what
they are living right now and they NEED to access IT!!! …It seriously is TIME UP for
maintaining BAD relationships at the cost of your growth!!! If YOU,
ME, WE don’t… our house will be FUNKY even after we clean up, bathe,
brush our teeth, put on deodorant and all of that!!! STOP WELCOMING FUNKY GUESTS IN
YOUR PERSONAL SPACE…
I know you’re thinking… “Girl YOU Crazy!!!!!!!!!!!! But she is telling the TRUTH!!!”
Listen…we are in this
together…because
Girl…YOU, ME, WE are going to the next level and funky guest are not
welcome!!!
Last Notes
in GYC Quotes
“If you want to attract new
people with different attitudes…stop inviting the old ones with funky attitudes.”-Sounds like something your
mother might say…it’s cool…some have called me Mama Lauren!!!
“If you offer someone with
bad breath a mint and they won’t take it…walk away because they are not ready
for change.”-The
Truth (if you ever heard it!!!)
I’ll
give you a minute to think on that…
“You are
better than your past because you are still here in the present…so walk worthy
in your position by being selective of who you give permission...to walk with you.”-Just GYC…no extra commentary
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