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Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Open Doors, Open Doors







“Little to no traffic, green lights, minimum distractions, a little rain but no worries, your windshield wipers are working, the GPS is instructing, you’re listening and even when you miss that turn…still no worries because it re-routes…and now, you’ve arrived where and when YOU were supposed to be there…which is on time.”-A description of a life that trust the process

“Every time I said yes, I was granted access. And now I’m walking in my worth as a promise fulfilled by my Purpose.-US

“I agree, every appeared opening is not for me but peace follows the doors that are open and welcome me.”-Just Plain Ole GYC, no commentary 

Say it with me… “Open doors, open doors!!!!!”



…Think about it…

It’s that moment when you said no (mentally and verbally) to ALL things against your purpose and truly decided to follow…

Then, BAM (or whatever sound effect of your pleasing) your open door became visible!

It became YOUR sign that you were actually going in the right direction, aiming for a target with an exciting end goal, and creating something that pleased your soul…

…That moment when peace became more than just a word but a realization that this purpose/desire/dream is happening, revealing itself right before OUR EYES!!

Ahhhhh…this is the life!!

And on the other side…finally understanding why people say,

“Never forget YOUR WHY.”


If your open door has yet to show itself…No worries, I’ll talk about that in a minute.

Please Note: This is Not “Questionable Closed Door”…I don’t think?…But go check it out anyway because it was one of my first blog posts!! Thank you!! I’ve come a long way!!

But…THIS open door, you walked through it, and even in moments of weakness…you eventually kept going and that one open door…welcomed MORE open doors!! (yes…I will be saying “open doors” a lot…deal with it and get ready for em’ please!!)

“Girl YOU Crazy”

It’s like going the right speed, at the right time and getting all (well, mostly) green lights because your foot does need a break…arriving on time to the place that you may not have been all that sure you were going to be …"on time"…maybe even started thinking of a “I’m not late” face or story (hey…I’ve done both…) BUT everything just began to fall into place.


And the more you said yes to the reason you were designed…the more opportunities presented themselves for YOU/ME/WE to say YES to.

Open doors, open doors.

I want to talk about allowing yourself to have no limits to living out your purpose even if RIGHT NOW seems amazing…and it took so much to arrive at this place you’re in/at right now…

The more YOU/Me/We keep saying Yes to purpose the more YOU/Me/We have to say Yes to.

I think I just said that… but I’ll leave it because … I want to.

It’s having that aha moment and everything just clicks! And you truly understand…

I was built for this.

Then that next step…I was built for everything connected to this, my purpose!!

Open doors, open doors.


Do YOU hear me?!
“Girl YOU Crazy”…you were thinking it! Or maybe not… because THIS is the REAL DEAL!!

There is nothing like being at the right place, at the right time, saying the right thing(s) to the right people.

Personal GYC Commentary on My Life:
When you process the past you just might find a bigger dream with deeper impact and greater influence.

I once believed that I can’t___________.

+I can’t write stories because my 7th/8th grade English teacher gave me C’s on all my stories’ rough drafts, and did not seem interested in me making progress to a better grade… which is how I grew to love poetry…I always earned A’s.

+I can’t seriously be transparent with everyone because what’s the point?

+I can’t give advice on my experiences because they need to be validated with an expert educated specifically in the subject, and I also need to need the advice that I’m giving in my own life.

+I can’t design because apparently my designs have been done before...

+I can’t speak to crowds because public speaking frightens me.

+I can’t genuinely give because when I do I have this remorse/regret/fear that I just took something from myself that I can’t get back, and I’ll have less.

The list probably goes on but these were my big points!

See the thing is…
I realized my open doors by saying yes/I CAN to Purpose/Dreams that honored my worth and design, despite ANY naysayers, discouragement, negative feelings/thoughts, or lack of confidence/trust in certain abilities.


As much as the “can’t” might have initially been true, honest feelings and/or intentionally meant to stop me…I persevered/pushed/fought to decide not to remain where I was so that I would have room to grow further.

I NOW believe and know that I can______________.

+I can write.

+I can blog.

+I can write books. I am an author. This year…I have 2 author credits!! Dear Divorce, Thank You being the first! And the second book is a women’s compilation that will officially launch this coming March in Canada!!!

+I can design. I am a graphic designer. I can design books. This year…I have 4 book design credits (for sure…this year isn’t over) including the 2 books mentioned above!!! And the other 2 for 2 first time authors as well!!

+I can share my life, my experiences. I can speak. I have a new level of transparency…it’s called you are not alone with your fears or triumphs, and in some way shape or form we are connected. So I will stand with you by relating to you... instead of pretending like I don’t know a level of what it is like to be you, or can’t have compassion for what you’ve been through.

+I can give. I can give and not feel like I am at a lost but realize the priceless gain.

Every area that began to unveil itself as “I can” connected and continues to connect me deeper to my purpose, opening door after door because of one open door that I said yes to.

Seeing one open door lead to many other open doors, which helped me grow my weaknesses and inabilities, turning my fear into courage. If there is one thing that I learned about “I can’t” is that there are many things we all “can’t” do or are not built/designed to do…but there is a difference in being able to pinpoint/verbalize your “can’t”…It is the beginning to your lesson and/or understanding.

+The Lesson: Your weaknesses are a perfect place to grow strength. Have you ever heard the phrase, “Where you are weak, is where you are being made strong”?

All of my “I can’t” listed above became my fighting moments for “Oh Yes, I Can.” And how I stand and progress today.

+The Understanding: Everyone is not designed to do everything but if you love it, find your voice within it and use it that way…Remember “I got a voice & I use it”? Go beyond the surface to get to the substance. Keeping a perspective that allows you to embrace and honor ALL of who YOU ARE!!

When WE turn ‘I can’t’ into ‘I can’…we will begin to see the truth of ‘open doors, open doors.’ Then, take off all limits to the possibilities of who YOU/Me/We were designed to be, living freely in our Purpose.



Let me say this
A dream is vision, a surface, an image like the picture on the box of a puzzle. We won’t understand it until we’ve connected all the pieces together…even those that don’t look like they fit. If you want an open door that leads to other open doors, commit to your Purpose including all things attached to the journey of getting there.

 Some More GYC Quotes:

"If You're scared to go through that first open door for whatever reason, you'll never know ALL of the greatness that already lives within you." 

"All of YOUR open doors are an introduction to know more about the person YOU are but have yet to meet."

Stay tuned THIS December…for Part 2… Let’s delve a little deeper!! And YOU know that there will be an end of the year FREE GYCGIRLYOUCRAZY Book... Y'all are going to LOVE THIS!!!

Defeating Crazy with Courage,

Lauren Alicia, Miss GYCGirl…Walking Through My Opened Doors…Doors!!



Yes Ma’am!!

P.S. My Book, Dear Divorce, Thank You (EvenThough I Hate You) is in stores NOW and the GYC Lifestyle section is hopping…whatever that means! So go pick up your copy and check it out!! Please and thank you! And HUGE Thank you to those that have already picked up their copy!! Let me know what YOU think!!

P.P.S


Sunday, August 31, 2014

Cross the Line


“You were built for this, I got your back, don’t worry, I set you up to win, influence, encourage, take (appeared) risks and enjoy what was and is accomplished.”-Your Purpose Talking

“Start with me and end with me, and you’ll never see a bottom, only opportunity.”-Purpose Still Talking



“Sometimes we maintain where we are because it’s hard to fathom some of the things our purpose asks of us.”-An Understanding Friend that wants YOU to cross the line, or Me (it’s okay if we haven’t met yet)

Welcome!!
“Don’t cross the line”
(said with a smile, firm face, hand gestures, bold tone, light tone, wink, anger, or fill-in-the-blank _____ attitude or undertone…)

Your (possible) response: YOU talking to me?? Girl YOU Crazy because you’re not talking to me…

Can we be real…even if that is just how you respond in your head…? Okay, cool thanks!


But wait, let me locate WHO I’m talking to before I fully get in to this, I guess I could have started with that…

1. How many of us have heard that phrase???

2. Now… How many times has someone said it to YOU…(maybe with different words)???

3. And… How many of us cared?!?!? Or the number of times YOU cared??

I see those hands!!

And that’s why you’re on GYC-GirlYOUCrazy.com…WE get each other!

Quick Road Map:
This post is about going deeper in the reasons why we decide/decided to cross the line and the benefits attached to it…and what I mean by crossing the line, me personally, Lauren Alicia (I’m not trying to start any drama…)…if you were wondering!

GYC SideNote: YOU/ME/We are the courageous ones…no matter how “crazy” people say we are [.] Mmmhmm!! Boom tika boom!!

So… let’s get right into it…

I want to talk about crossing the line for the sake of…
+ Your purpose
+ Being heard
+ Helping others be heard
+ Being WHO YOU ARE designed to be
+ Accomplishing what you set out to achieve
+ Allowing your potential to breathe and be
+ Allowing courage to not just be a word but thoughts with action
+ Taking the next step and going to the next level

Do YOU hear me…?!?!?

THIS is the type of crossing the line I want to talk about…if there is drama to be had…let your PURPOSE be attached!! You know so if anything legal wise comes up…it makes sense to you as to why you feel and/or act(ed) the way you did/do…

Are we still on the same page? Yes? Okay, good! If not, I still want you to keep reading…please and thank you! *smile

August’s (and September) Question for Thought:



SideNote: When I wrote that quote at the bottom, it was after I realized some of the times and even recently that I “crossed the line,” and I thought about if I hadn’t …where would I be today?

Not to mention…it made me think about the times that I didn’t cross the line or waited…

But let’s get back to crossing the line (yes…I will be saying cross the line and purpose 50 times)…

The thing with this Question for Thought and why I wanted to write a related post… is that it makes me think about what YOU/ME/We use to replace courage when it comes to pursuing our purpose…you know, old Slewfoot…and all his relatives… those dag gone naysayers…

And on the other side, the importance of why we need to cross the line for our purpose, and the other related reasons I mentioned above.

Let me outline 2 of the most important moments to recognize when we replace courage:
1.                    When we replace courage as in let doubt start talking and deciding, it becomes easy for us to deny/reject/never follow-through on the ideas that push us beyond limits; I’m talking about those “crazy” aka courageous ideas that pop in our mind…

Think about it, the more we invite doubt and worry in, the harder it becomes to actually want to do it or believe that we can do it!

2.                   The moment when the “crazy” ideas don’t appear to have any provision/resources/support/money/all of the above…and it makes us worry and/or wait, which doesn’t help us get anywhere!


*This is basically how worrying makes me feel… so…


Sometimes we think too small and our design is created to think big so we think that what’s “crazy” isn’t the norm, when IN OUR reality… what’s “crazy” aka courageous is actually OUR norm asking us will YOU be B-O-L-D? ---I may have to back to this in another post…

And THAT is the reason I want us to cross the line…

The next step in your purpose is on the other side of “that line”…will you cross it?

Think about this, when/what was the first time you can remember that you took a risk…then after you did it…you realized it was no big deal?

One of the things I had to realize and keep in my remembrance was that there are no risks in pursuing your purpose…the risk is in not pursuing YOUR Purpose…and knowing the makes of you…then wondering why there is no satisfaction or whatever your desired emotion or feeling maybe…


Here are some random GYC thoughts that may lead you to “Cross the Line” (they don’t need my commentary…yours is enough)

+ I am one of my greatest resources. My design was built to fulfill my purpose, pushing its features beyond the limits.

+ Your answer just may be on the other side of a question but you’ll never know if you don’t ask.

+ Who cares if everyone cares?! If you weren’t doing something worth talking about… they would not talk about you. Yeah…purpose’s ideas may seem crazy but if you took the time to realize the setup it has set up…your life may REALLY get crazy (by definition) or remain boring if you don’t do what it asks…

BOOM…what you gonna do???

that's my note-to-self…

+ Friend, if you don’t pursue this dream, your purpose... then what will you pursue? And what legacy will you leave?

The person that you admire isn’t the only one capable of being courageous and BOLD ENOUGH to begin fulfilling their dreams.

Hello!!

Quick Personal Story and GYC Commentary
I have crossed the line.

Someone told me I did and even wanted to file an injunction (lawsuit) to show me just how much I crossed the line…

I wrote and published Dear Divorce, Thank You… for grown kids (teens and adults) of divorce to confront, cope, learn, decide and apply.

And no it does not bash parents or anyone else but it also does not deny the truth for the sake of someone’s ego.

I had to realize that my growth, our growth is more important than some temporary hurt feelings about the truth that already exists whether or not people verbalize it.

We all go through our own level of tragedy or hardships but not talking about it when YOU know YOU have the voice and heart built to authentically discuss it… just keeps the conversation from not being discussed…it’s existence doesn’t go away based on whether or not we have a tolerance for it.

Long story short…my book is for sale at various online book retailers regardless of any present, past or future opposition against it.

I thought about not talking about this part of the journey at all… Then I realized that you all needed to know there was a real struggle beyond sharing my story on this topic with the world…and I crossed the line like there was no line for the sake of my sanity and purpose because my position that I was designed to play is WORTH IT.

SideNote: That's the only air that drama needs. Let us proceed!!

A Good Old Fashioned GYC Rant (all grammar rules out the window…I miss these)
Listen…Cross the line, cross the line, CROSS THE LINE!! (Insert your name here…)____________ CROSS THE LINE!! If there is one thing we can regret in this life is to know you have a purpose and not live it…and instead consider everyone and everything that has something negative against it…allowing them to cloud your judgment…leaving YOU/ME/WE to live a boring life of what if and I just didn’t want to hurt so-and-so’s feelings and having those that come after you struggle in an area where YOU were built to pave the way!

Cross That Line because no matter the volume or depths of your purpose, YOU are worth it…the real risk in not taking the risk is to find out that it wasn’t a risk but a normal day in your purpose. People can call you whatever they want to call you but YOUR PUPORSE DESIGNED YOU, which means it knows the depths of you, so only answer to what it calls you, WORTHY and equipped…which means that when you own it…there WILL BE OPPOSITION but don’t worry because you are worthy and equipped!! And if you were not…think about this…why would Slewfoot send its small-minded goons to bother someone who has no potential to be SOMEONE.

Let Me Say This…and I’m done
Think about WHO AND/OR WHAT needs your “crazy” idea that crosses the line, pushes the envelope, questions the definition of limits, and says that I am the expert of MY EXPERIENCES, listen to me.

Then decide (after you have put in all that thought) IF you don’t want to be courageous.

I’m thinking that if YOU/ME/We really do this…WE’LL BE SO STIRRED UP TO JUST TAKE THE MIC AND ROCK THIS LIFE…okay, I need to calm down…

Anyway…
There are too many Girl YOU Crazy faces and comments putting a hold on stuff, attempting to talk us out of walking worthy in our purpose, and making us think that we can’t impact the world with the genius that lives within us.

Crossing the line is about taking courage for what it’s for, our purpose, going for it… even IF the idea makes others uncomfortable. Living and fulfilling the life that calls us to be passionate and not just want change but step up and make change.

We cross the line for a better, no… GREATER tomorrow. And if we just sit and indulge in discouragement, today will only continue to replay itself…no progress.

What others and even ourselves may think is crossing the line, our purpose just considers it another day of living out our design…the norm we were built to live and enjoy!

So…I am going to ask this question again…



Don’t shut up or shut out the Courage attached to your Purpose.

More GYC Quotes

“Cross the line like there is no line because anything attached to your purpose is worth it.”-Life

“Many ideas aren’t crazy…our minds just think to small.”-The Substance of Crossing the Line

“If you didn’t have the power to impact the world…NO ONE would care about what you’re doing.”-Real Life

So go ahead…CROSS THE LINE!! And encourage someone to do the same!


Defeating crazy with courage,
Lauren Alicia, Miss GYCGirl…Crossing the Line with Confidence!!



Saturday, June 21, 2014

I’m not ready to commit… | I’m Ready To Commit!


“The power of our story could be the key to someone’s healing.”-Dear Divorce, Thank You (even though I HATE you) Sincerely, My Parents' Grown Kid: A Journey of Hate, Healing and Understanding, By Lauren Alicia

Yes…I know it is a long title.

“If I commit, I can’t quit.”-YOU



“You never know who is waiting to be influenced on the other side of your commitment.”-Life

Well…here it is beautiful people…my moment of honesty that cant/wont be filtered (no worries, I don’t cuss, I have other words…truth)…nor can/will I take it back.

Breathe Lauren, Breathe.

My official commitment to my 1st Rough Dream becoming reality aka this post will be like a ceremony with a little bit of everything!

*key music…

I wrote a book, THE BOOK that I’ve been referring to since the beginning of 2013 (or maybe even earlier…hmm…), and now I am sharing it with the world…officially, Tuesday, August 19th!!!

HERE IS THE COVER!!!!!!


Let me just say that I am proud!

Okay, back to the GYC Girl YOU Crazy Commitment Ceremony

First off… Girl, what is a rough dream??? (because I know you were thinking it…)

Rough Dreams Definition




I call them Rough Dreams because …
+They’re not glamorous and you’re not sure if it will ever appear to be glamorous
+They’re not what you expected
+They might be hard for those around you to accept
+They’ll make you find 50 (or more) reasons…really good reasons to quit
+ They’re dreams because you know deep down that even though the route is rough, the destination is a dream, it’s beautiful, amazing, ____(insert your favorite description here), and you know that you need to commit!

“When we commit, it’s like that 1 thing Purpose is asking for hits the surface while the rest of you is still marinating in the substance waiting for Purpose to call it too.”

What does it mean to commit?

These following 4 points were my struggle as emotions made me say maybe I don’t publish this, which is the main reason I self-published…yep so that I can have a way out… Can I be real?

**I won’t write GYC Commentary after the points…I’ll just let your thoughts be enough.

1. See the vision, Hear the directions, Take the steps
++ GYC Note To MYSelf (and you too if you need it) // Make it plain… Do NOT overcomplicate this thing Lauren, please stop…RIGHT NOW! Whew!!

Breathe Lauren, Breathe.


2. Take steps until the vision is complete!!
++ You’re not done until the vision is an image YOU can hold!

3. Let passion be present and refreshed!
++ Give it your all so you can be re-filled with greater!!

4. Minimize (or cut off) communication with what distracts you from where (and who) Purpose asks you to commit.
++ Know your priorities beyond the surface.




So…

This is ME taking the next step, commitment.

When I commit, I get quiet…
Focusing on the less to create the greater
Muting the noise that attempts to override the voice of Purpose and direction
Choosing to be guided by what already lies within
It’s been nurtured to maturity
         Although I do have my moments…
But this is The Moment that I shall take
Hustle it until the vision of victory is part of my history
and stepping stones for my future

I’ve let the pain of the past not be told because all I wanted to do was hate it
Now it’s time to turn the page
And welcome you to this part of my story…

A Journey of Hate, Healing And Understanding

More completely Dear Divorce, Thank You (even though I HATE you) Sincerely, My Parents’ Grown Kid: A Journey of Hate, Healing And Understanding

This is only the beginning.


HERE IS THE BACK COVER!!!


Now Available for Pre-order on Amazon.com to be released Tuesday, August 19, 2014, the day before the reason this journey began (my parents’ wedding day)!


Stay tuned by following DearDivorceThankYou.com!!! Watch out for interviews, articles, journal videos, posts & posters, and how you can join and help me promote!!

“ I can’t stop until I see the win, you’ve felt achievement before so can you be patient enough to wait, dedicate and commit until you feel it again? Your answer better be YES.”-My Note to Self


GYC (unnecessary) SideNote // I’m loving adding in these gifs…!

Thank you everyone for your support, patience and blessings!!

Last Note (and I’m done…)
What if GYC-GirlYOUCrazy.com was unintentionally intentionally created to bring me to this point and keep me going? What if the thing(s) you’re doing right now that you might think no one is listening or everybody is watching me not be who I WANT to be, or ______(you tell me…) is unintentionally intentionally paving the way to your dreams into reality… Honestly, that “What-if” is actually (or probably) “What IS.” One day we’ll see and be able to feel the vision of how each step was a puzzle piece designed to create a masterpiece…that looks like the most amazing version of the person in the mirror!

What if just might be what is…


I appreciate you all soooooooooooooooooooooo much!!


Defeating Crazy with Courage…watch me commit and hold me to it,
Lauren Alicia, GYCGirl…Getting her Author on!

P.S. Here’s a preview of the posts you’ll see on DearDivorceThankYou.com



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